Friends

coach house books launch

Posted on May 5, 2007. Filed under: Books, Friends, randomness |

In the midst of my week of books via sales conference, I managed to find a bit of energy to head back out to the Coach House Books launch. I met my friend Tom first at The Communist’s Daughter (very cute, cozy little bar) and then we strolled over to the launch at Revival. I had a fantastic time introducing friends from all of my different lives (SFU friends, Queen’s friends, publishing friends) and making connections. I have to admit that is my most favourite thing to do – becoming a social connector even for a brief moment. Especially when the levels of connections seem to be improbable and completely coincidental. The last time I remember feeling this way was when I had brought friends to a Craig Cardiff show in Vancouver. I had a fantastic time.

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a perfect, lovely evening: emily carr, the village idiot, and poetry

Posted on April 21, 2007. Filed under: Books, Friends, The boy(s) |

I can’t stop smiling!

🙂

Tonight was absolutely perfect! Brian and I met up after work (I even parked and took the subway — I’m trying to be better about not driving everywhere). We went to see the Emily Carr exhibit at the AGO. Now, I value Emily Carr as a person, an artist, and as a woman. She is iconic as a famous woman who had to overcome obstacles in a male world of art, but I’d have to say that seeing a whole exhibit of her work seemed a bit repetitive. The one thing I couldn’t get over was the sheer volume of the pieces of art there, not to mention the books that she penned — and there were two very intricate rugs that would take me a lifetime to complete (remember that blanket I started crocheting a year ago? ya, not done…).

From there we walked aimlessly to find a place that I could eat at. We settled on The Village Idiot, right across the street from the AGO. It was crowded and the windows were open (on this first beautiful day of spring) and I felt like I was back in London, England (Brian mentioned this too). It’s exactly the after-work-feel-like-you’re-in-Europe kind of establishment. And the food was really good and quite affordable.

Then, only a few steps away, we went to the IV Lounge to see my good friend Moez read at a poetry reading. He was reading with Rick Crilly and George Murray (who you may know from BookNinja). All of the poets were very talented and all had completely different styles. It was a star line-up I would say.  It was really enjoyable and witty and humorous and the poems were just fantastic! I also got to catch up with some friends from Queen’s. I realized when I left that while we were at Queen’s the friends that were there before were those who I would always to to or see at readings or other literary events on campus. And it was really nice to have that again tonight. Perfect even! I ran into a couple of other friends and met some new people (which is always part of a perfect night for me). Best of all, Brian was there for it all.

And I still can’t stop smiling.

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zaide, poetry, and misunderstandings

Posted on January 31, 2007. Filed under: Friends, Theatre |

I forgot to mention that Brian and I went to see Zaide, which was being put on by Opera in Concert last weekend. This is a “rarely” performed opera and was unfinished (by Mozart) and, well, maybe there are reasons for both of those things — it wasn’t really that great.

One of the signers was blantantly reading every line — and I know they’re allowed to in this case, and that they have music stands, etc., but at least make it appear as though this wasn’t your first time through. The reason we went was to see Vasil Garvanliev perform. And he exceeded my expectations. He had everything memorized and his voice is just of a quality beyond, well, many. He’s a character on stage and adds to every performance I have seen him in.

Then, Monday night — I met with a new team I’m volunteering with (a research committee) and it was so great! I’m really looking forward to working with them.

Then, last night, I was set to meet a friend for dinner (after this dinner had already been cancelled 4 times, the degree of expectation was heightened) . Neither of us had each other’s phone numbers and we didn’t meet. We were both there — at Fresh on Bloor St, but I got a table and she waited outside (without even checking in the building) for 45 minutes before leaving.

I then met up with Queen’s friends who I haven’t seen for 4 years at a poetry competition. Apparently it’s the 8th annual, but after working in publishing for 3 years now, it was the first I’d heard of it. He made it to round 2, but not beyond, though I was very, very schocked at a couple of the choices who made it to the end. I bolted at the news to try to fly home and to get into bed before 12, but then remembered that I had won my pretty laptop bag (not the super cool one) on ebay and wanted to pay for it. Paypal was NOT cooperative at all! But I finally settled in at 12:30 only to feel like thirty seconds had passed before my alarm went off.

Now, I have class tonight, yoga tomorrow night and dinner plans on Friday night — I need to do things like laundry and grocery shopping! I only have a block of goat cheese and rice puffs left — not very conducive to keeping one’s energy up when running at this pace.

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measuring sticks

Posted on January 27, 2007. Filed under: Friends, Marriage, The boy(s), today i learned |

From Kindergarten Stacey and I were inseperable. We were best friends and no two best friends could have been more perfectly matched. We got into trouble together, got lost together so many times while hiking, fought together, and stood strong and tall beside one another.

Of course, I didn’t realize how similar we were until years later when, after spending years apart we met up and were still the same person in pretty much every single respect.

Looking back, she was the only person that, at the time, I simply HAD to do something with. I have never had another friend that I shared such a dependence on. We joined everything together, we thought in the same way, were both in the “gifted” program at school and silently competed for better grades against one another. We had a healthy one-up-manship at school, and in life.

It all came to an end in eighth grade.

That was when my best friend in the whole world moved.

Now, I know this happens to children all the time and we both tried to pretend that we didn’t mind, but she was moving to Switzerland. I still remember us the last day together before she moved. We were both trying so hard to be happy. Too tough and grown up to cry, of course. For 13 year olds we managed to keep in touch via mail (those were the pre-email days) for a long time, and I even got to go to Switzerland to visit when I was 14 — all by myself, my first time on a plane.

I remember being jealous of Stacey’s new friends she had made there. Jealous that she could speak German fluently. That she was now, likely, smarter than me.

Brutally jealous. I remember never wanting to share her. Or maybe being insecure and knowing deep down inside that she was one of two true friends I had in the whole world and, without her, I would be pretty much all alone in the world. (I did, of course, make new friends and have since rid myself of almost all jealous tendencies).

Continents apart, we still excelled at school — she veered towards Science and me towards English and the arts (maybe it was meant to be that way — complimentary instead of competitive). I went to Queen’s, her family moved back here and she went to Guelph. We both finished Masters programs. We had continued, through space and time to stay even — the measuring stick was level.

And now, I just recieved a wonderful email that she and her husband are pregnant. And I am so happy for her and wonder how the even lives we had been living somehow suddenly got so out of whack. Did she speed up? Did I slow down? Of course, I don’t actually think we should be at the same place in our lives but her email made me realize that I am just so not in that same place. So incredibly far from it and sometimes I wish I didn’t feel so far away, like I didn’t feel like I knew I would have to do things like buying a place on my own just to finally move out of my parent’s house again and to try to be sure that I could make enough on one salary to do so and to not be sure that any of the rest will necessarily follow. I used to not want it to. I used to claim that I would never get married — that it was an unnecessary situation in life, a stupid piece of paper. But, as everyone said it would, that has definitely changed. Now I feel like I never will in that way you do in your twenties when the rest of the world around you seems to be getting married and you’re not – not in the way that makes you want to go out tomorrow and tie the knot (I’m much to logical for any of that). I sometimes feel like I should be further along in life, though I don’t want the pace to speed up one little bit.

So, congratulations to Stacey. My first best friend in the whole world. Thank you for still being able to teach me about myself, my life, and how I work in the world despite the fact that we have seen one another a handful of times in the last decade.

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why do the weekends seem to go by so quickly?

Posted on January 15, 2007. Filed under: Family, Friends, The boy(s) |

Well, I was hoping something overly exciting might happen for this, my 500th post, but it was a fairly uneventful weekend.

Brian had myself and a friend (and his girlfriend) over for dinner on Fri night. It went quite well and the food he made was tremendous! Then we went to Winterfest to see his cousin’s girlfriend on her Synchronized Skating team. I actually set up these plans because my old housemate Lauren had always been involved with the sport and, being the supportive friend that I am, I attended many an event and learned a great deal about the whole thing. I had gone to this event for the past 3 years with (or to see) Lauren as she was coaching teams, and since I didn’t know if she’d be around this year it was nice to carry on the tradition.

Then came the shopping and the fun, exciting laptop purchase.

It snowed quite a bit today, which makes it feel like winter and, though I don’t have my snow tires yet, I finally put windshield washer fluid in my car.

Today was my cousin’s baby shower. Owen is now just a month old and I swear he’s doubled in size since I saw him at 4 days old. We played some of those shower-type games you play (one you had to put a diaper on and dress a cabbage patch kid while blindfolded — I actually made it to the semi-finals in that one). But it was nice to see the family and the extended non family who feel like family because we’re always at the same parties and events.

Now I’m trying to figure out how to get back to the inital start-up on my mac so I can say yes to synching up with the old computer…I just have to find my firewire before then AND figure out how to do this. Do you think I’ll have to reinstall everything?

All in all a nice, lazy weekend.

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the two year catch up

Posted on December 29, 2006. Filed under: Friends |

So it’s likely a coincidence, but I went out with a friend last night who I haven’t seen for about 2 years. We went for yummy thai food and caught up on the past few years (funny how now even though life seems to be moving at a more rapid pace, there can be a year or two gaps in between meetings and that’s just about perfect for catching up on everything that has transpired in that time). Anyway, we had a lovely time and I hope it isn’t another 2 years before we see each other again.

Tonight I went out with a good friend from high school, Shirley, and the last time we hung out was over a year ago, if not more. It was on Hallowe’en night. I think it was 2005 and not 2004…but I’m not entirely sure. Anyway,  we had a fantastic time at a local pub just catching up. The best part was when all of these “kids” came in and started getting id’ed and she realized that we hadn’t been (after all those years of being ID’ed WAY after the age of 19 and hating it, it was weird to be the old gals in the room atthe age of 26). I said that it must be getting close to 10 because the kids were just coming out and we were past our normal bedtimes. It was 20 to 10. Oh dear. Anyway, it was fantastic to see her and to catch up properly after being incommunicado for so long. And, though I suck tremendously at keeping in touch with people regularly, I do try my best to stay in touch because I place it on a very high level of importance.

And I realized that this is part of the reason why I don’t actively try to meet people like I used to. I don’t have time to maintain the relationships.

I mean, I barely have time to maintain the ones that I WANT to maintain with the people that I consider to be very good friends and I currently consider it fantastic if I can email someone back within 3 months of the receipt of their email, which is not a fantastic turn around time. And so more people means less time that I don’t have enough of to begin with. So, for anyone reading this who I haven’t been in touch with frequently, I apologize. BUT I am ALWAYS here for the really important stuff and, as with every New Year I will promise to try really hard to be better at returning emails and making initial phone calls and all that jazz.

Thanks for sticking with me 🙂

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almost christmas

Posted on December 22, 2006. Filed under: Environment, Family, Friends, The boy(s), Weather |

Well, it’s almost Christmas and it looks like it’ll be a green one this year. I’ve just about finished overspending yet again, but I guess that’s okay. There may be a day when I can’t afford to do it, so I might as well spoil everyone while I can.

I went to see my cousin and her new baby again today. He is just so cute! Then hit the mall for some last minute realization gifts. When I started running into everyone I knew, I figured it was time to head home before I was trapped there for hours.

Brian and I are having our Christmas tomorrow and I’m really looking forward to finally having time to spend together — and more than just a few hours here scattered here and there. I’m not sure, but I feel like other people in relationships might see one another and do things together a heck of a lot more often than he and I do.

I’m looking forward to spending time off work and at home too.

Happy Holidays to everyone! Do you have anything special planned?

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i have the best mom ever

Posted on December 3, 2006. Filed under: Candida, Friends, Gluten Free Recipes |

My mom has always made sure that I have an advent calendar on December 1st. She even sent them to Queen’s for myself and all of my housemates each year.

Well, I have the best mom ever because this year, she melted down the chocolate chips that I can pretty much eat, ripped open the advent calendar, took out the chocolate, and poured the melted chocolate into the mold. How completely sweet is that?

I totally have the best mom ever.

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smart women

Posted on November 19, 2006. Filed under: Friends, randomness |

I forgot to mention that last night at the dinner I ran into a friend from Queen’s and found out that he’s working on The Smart Woman Survial Guide, which I coincidentally watched for the first time yesterday morning and loved! Now, I’m not sure what it is exactly that he’s doing on the show, but if you know Sean and you watch this show, it just makes sense that this is what he’s doing right now. I loved the show — very witty, funny and a bit random. A perfect combination. Have  you already seen an episode? Do you like it? Check it out and come back to say what you think about it.

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my feet hurt

Posted on November 19, 2006. Filed under: Drinking, Friends, randomness, School, The boy(s), Theatre |

I just got home from volunteering at the John Orr Dinner, a Queen’s Alumni event. I volunteered last year too and my favourite part both times was seeing the Queen’s Bands again. I don’t know, there’s just something about those bands that remind me of the community I had at Queen’s and then, when I look around the room, I know that everyone in there has had such a similar and positive experience from that University and I love it. I know, I know, I’m a Queen’s snob through and through and you know what? I love it!

The event went well, though I only knew about 20 people, it was nice to catch up with them. I couldn’t handle the young ones and their drunkenness — I suppose I’m old now (though they actually are getting younger!). The class of ’10 was present (scary!).

The weekend also kicked off with Brian and I standing in line for a lottery to see Wicked.  A cool idea, though if you don’t get tickets it’s just a waste of an evening. It was cool to be a part of it, even though we didn’t win. We then had a mediocre to poor dinner at Lone Star.

After a weekend of standing, tonight in heels, my feel are killing me as is my head so I’m going to put the deliriousness that is me to bed. Good night!

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